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An easy way to feel better

An easy way to feel better
By Elizabeth Filips • Issue #19 • View online
Hiya overthinkers,
My most recent attempt to be more present and enjoy my life has been surprisingly quite effective. I’ve spent the last few weeks pointing out to myself when I start thinking about the past.
Things I’ve done wrong. Things I wished I’d done. Things that have hurt me. Replaying a negative comment (online or in person) again and again in my mind as though I’m actually trying to make myself feel bad.
It’s really surprising how often I do this. Especially when trying to fall asleep. I waste so much time thinking about the past, and almost all of it being painted in a negative light.
I’ve heard the phrases before: “don’t care about the past!”, “what’s done is done”, “no regrets!! woooo” but they felt more fitting for teenagers trying to get over the guilt of not studying for an exam, or elderly people on their deathbed.
They weren’t realistic to me. I’m a huge fan of reflection and always thought it was essential to improvement: learning from your mistakes and the such. But I definitely more often than not cross the line into emotional self-harm.
What doesn’t help this at all is my extremely vivid imagination - I can relive the past in a way that will make me feel just as bad (or worse) than I did at the time.
And so, I’ve challenged myself to stop it all. No more brooding. If there’s something making me feel bad that I can’t change, I don’t allow myself to think of it. I try to remind myself that there’s absolutely no point in thinking about the past, and focus on my surroundings. On literally anything around me at that moment.
And I feel just so much better. I’d really recommend trying it for a while.
I do enjoy challenging my most natural and extreme states of thinking with their opposite. It really is fun :)
Wishing you a great week,
Elizabeth xx

🪄 Quote of the week
“Give the future enough thought to be ready for it—but don’t worry about it. Live each day as if you were to die next sunrise. Then face each sunrise as a fresh creation and live for it, joyously. And never think about the past. No regrets, ever.“ 
— Time enough for love - Heinlein Robert
🖤 My Favourite Things This Week
Book - Still reading Harry Potter. I now fall asleep to it every night, I’ve currently just started the Prisoner of Azkaban. It’s amazing how even though I know exactly what will happen next, it’s still incredibly fun.
Meeting YouTubers - I got to meet a bunch of medical YouTubers this week and it was incredible. It’s the best feeling to meeting a group of new people and instantly know you can be best friends. I guess the overlap of personality traits that get one into YouTube and medicine is tight enough to almost guarantee a potential friendship. It’s the best thing YouTube brings me, I’ve been so grateful for it.
🐓 Not-so-great this week
Moving house - My minimalist life has officially come to an end with starting YouTube. I have SO many more things. Boxes of chargers and wires and lights and soft boxes. Packing is an absolute pain, and I cannot wait for it all to be over in the next few weeks.
The weather - I’m a winter girl. I do not appreciate the bright and boiling heat unless I’m in the sea. I’ve found myself pining for scarves and coats and hot drinks and blankets. While I’m in an overheated city.
🎥 YouTube Videos this week
Fakeness, Wives & Competition - Q&A with Ali Abdaal
Fakeness, Wives & Competition - Q&A with Ali Abdaal
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Elizabeth Filips

Heya, I'm Elizabeth, a medical student and painter in London. Some Sundays I write about exploring meaning, productivity, little pleasures and just navigating life. And some of my favourite things that week.

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